Chris Brogan is a man I respect quite a bit. I’ve never met him, but merely by reading his blog posts, you can tell he’s smart, thoughtful and is genuinely interested in helping people. I’ve been reading his personal blog for awhile, but only recently started reading Escape Velocity, a blog on which Chris writes with several others.
Chris did a video post today about confidence. As I watched it, I started thinking about how it relates to introverts. Take four minutes to see Chris’s video, then come back here for my thoughts.
Pretty good stuff, isn’t it? Here’s what inspired me:
- Silence the Exterior Critics – Let’s face it, for introverts, that usually means extroverts. This is maybe where you have to stand your ground and refuse to go to that party you really don’t want to go to. It’s about being who you are and being true to yourself. You can’t do that if you are letting someone else try to tell you your behavior is wrong.
- Start Small – If there’s some part of your behavior you genuinely want to change, take baby steps. If you dislike speaking up in meetings but really want to contribute, try making just one statement the next time. It doesn’t have to be anything brilliant; it just needs to generally fit in with the conversation. Starting is always hard, but once that first big step is finished, you’ll feel great. And the next step won’t be quite as difficult.
- Brush Off Failure – I think this is harder for introverts than extroverts. We’re hyper-focused on our behavior because in the extrovert world we live in, what we’re doing is often perceived as not “normal.” So let’s say you did speak up in the meeting, and then the conversation grinds to a halt because no one understood what you said. Not a big deal. Trust me, once the extroverts start talking again, they won’t even remember what you said! We all tend to focus too much on the mistakes. Let them go. No one but you will remember them.
I’d love to hear what you thought about Chris’s video. What does confidence mean to you?