Every year around this time, I try to write a post to help fellow introverts get through the holidays. It’s not that we don’t enjoy celebrating them. But this is an intense period of time for gatherings of all kinds and it can get a bit overwhelming for us. We’re obligated to attend at least some of them. Often, it’s difficult to get out of work holiday parties because it might send the wrong message.
But there are ways to make it through this season and not lose your sanity before January! Today I’m sharing a few tips for introvert self care during the holidays. What can you do to make this busy party period more manageable?
Know Your Limits
This is a key part of getting through the holidays. If you know that you can only handle about 45 minutes of a party, don’t “hope” that you can get through 60 minutes. You will only make yourself miserable. You may get invited to multiple parties on the same day or evening. Do you really think you can handle all of them? Be realistic about what your limits are. It will make the parties you do attend that much more enjoyable!
Communicate With Your Extrovert Partner
If you live with or will be attending events with a significant other or partner, you need to communicate with them ahead of time if they are an extrovert. (If your partner is an introvert, you’ll most likely both agree that most parties aren’t necessary!) Remember that extroverts gain energy through interaction; parties for them are like us spending two hours with a good book and a head full of thoughts.
You and your extrovert partner will have diametrically opposing ideas about how many parties to go to, how long you’ll stay, what you’ll do afterwards, etc. You’ll save yourself a lot of hurt and hassle if you make some agreements ahead of time about what you’ll do. Compromise is a good thing! You may end up going to more parties than you intended. But this is also a good time to bargain for the alone time you’ll need to recharge.
Schedule Your Recharging Time
It can get very hectic around the holidays. There is always so much going on in both your work and your personal life. Scheduling your alone time might be the key to survival! Yes, you will have events you need to attend, whether that’s fulfilling work or family obligations. But be kind to yourself; schedule some time to be alone and recharge. It’s the season to give — so be as kind to yourself as you are to others.
What else do you do to survive the holidays? Please share your thoughts and ideas in the comments!